I get a lot of random questions. I could easily sum all of it up. The number one thing I keep hearing involves what to do in relationships (of all kinds).
This is going to sound redundant to all of you reading this site. The answer is simple but, it is overshadowed by over-thinking (and probably some fear and, some work).
Act in the name of happiness. So many of the things we worry about turn out okay, in the end.
What is the meaning of life, otherwise?
It’s not about being a martyr and I don’t think that was ever the example. Some of these “religious” figures had actually turned away from religion, were murdered by religious or governing leaders then, these same dead figures were turned into religious figures. Ohh, the irony! Stories of Jesus sound like lessons in going against the status quo and living from the heart (with compassion and acceptance). I live in a religious part of the U.S., so, there is my two cents on it…
Happiness has nothing to do with the things we use as masks. So be mindful of compensating, over- indulging, dulling emotions, placating, being agreeable, manipulating, fear, anger or, imbalance.
A question…
What would happiness look like for you, if you are being honest and not worried about anything?
To start, Know how you feel about things in your life…not so easy for some of us. So, dive into this feeling stuff, first.
Then, take small steps toward your happy which may involve:
Leaving or not leaving. Getting a new job. Doing the old job, different. Communicating more. Choosing your battles. Allowing mistakes. Insisting on equal give and take. Empathizing. LISTENING. Saying what you mean, no agenda. Not staying stuck in over-thinking. Taking those night classes. Taking a mental health day (aka a “sick” day) to take care of you. Eating a donut or even better, eating a carrot! Ok, ok, eating baked kale chips- no really. It’s good.
See life as a practice. Not as a lesson in perfection. So let “it” be messy, if that’s what it will be for a time...
Maybe it’s:
Living so that you know you did everything you could…life isn’t perfect and some times we have to be in the weeds for a while- that comes from previous choices and I think there is a “cleaning up” period…it doesn’t last forever.
Follow the advice you would give to your children. We wouldn’t want them to just settle. You shouldn’t either…be that example because you are strong enough. Yes, you are. I have seen the strength in people. That is how I know everyday people ARE awesome- I think this is why some teens get frustrated (or moodyish) with their parents, in certain situations. They still know this truth. They still know what is possible.
No regrets happen in truth.
Happy Spring! (here, in the U.S.)